Monthly Archiv: March, 2023

Having what you need versus having what you want

Life is so good when you get what you need. I suppose “need” differs for everybody. Money has never been a need of mine. Of course it’s fundamental to things like food, shelter, and clothing. But having a lot of it never filled me.
I’m pretty sure that love is all I “need”.
I want money. I want love. I want things. There’s a whole bunch of stuff I want.
But having recently in the last two years, met my need for love finally:
Everything in the world tastes sweeter.
And on top of having the most important thing that I need, and that is Breia:
Everything I want, if I get it, tastes so much sweeter.
And, notably, if I don’t get what I want, it’s really OK. I have what I need.
They were practically children when they wrote it, but the Rolling Stones have a line like that in one of their songs:
You can’t always get what you want. But if you try, sometimes, you get what you need.
I’m saying something like that, in that if you got what you need, it’s really OK not to have everything you want. It doesn’t weigh on you. And once you have what you need, life is never miserable.
Thank you Breia.

Three easy ways to identify a sociopath or a narcissist

It’s unfortunate that the word sociopath sounds so much like psychopath. Because they’re not even hardly the same.
Our community and culture has rather a lot of sociopaths. Those are just people who don’t have a conscience. And all that means, is that when they say “aww, poor baby”. They don’t feel it. And when they say “I’m really impressed! You did a great job“ they don’t feel it. They’re just leveraging something or someone. 
….and they’re not “mean people“ even though they act mean.
sociopaths are as “mean” as a snake eating a mouse. Or a tornado hitting a trailer park. Or a flood, knocking over a little village.
It’s the thing that they do, when they exist. We take it personally, but it is about as personal as a blizzard that happens to kill you. 
Sometimes, the sociopath also happens to be a narcissist. 
And that means, not only does the person not have a conscience, but they also don’t think about anything except how they come off to other people, and their own aggrandizement, and their own satisfaction.
You might be surprised to know that the *minority* of narcissists are also sociopaths. About 20%.
Most narcissists are not sociopaths, and in fact, are just big talkers, glad handers, people who over promise, and people for whom life is always amazing. “Unbelievable. Ask anyone in the world which the greatest country is and they’ll say America.  Believe me.” Yeah. 
But most narcissists are just annoyingly grand, not actually predatory. 
And, UN-like a tornado, all varieties of narcissists can be hurtful, and very mean, intentionally or not.
I’ve come up with four parameters to use, to try to figure out if your True Love or “special other” is a narcissist before you make the mistake of marrying them.
Item 1, is that they are notoriously inconsiderate.
Item 2, is that they seldom if it ever take an interest in, or listen to the stories of other people.
Item 3 is that when you get right down to it they are some of the most insecure, vain people you know. Pardon the pun, but they are excessively self-conscious.
Item 4 is that when you dig down to it, they think they’re better than most people. It’s unlikely that you’re going to tell them some thing that they don’t have a response like “Oh that’s nothing, one time when I…“ And if you ask them, they will confide that they are better than practically everyone. They are The Chosen One. They are a gift, to any group of people, they’re working with.
What happens if you tell a sociopath or a narcissist that they have that particular emotional body odor?
They’ll say “That sounds like a YOU problem” and then: “You can quit with the psychobabble. I’m just fine. In fact, I’m better than you. You’re just jealous.”

Gmail Filter Words – Have to be in *OR* Format

I still got an email from Karri Buchanan and I realized it was because of the way I entered the filter-words.
The email would have had to have ALL of those words to be deleted on receipt.
SO the search string is actually:
I OR he OR she OR it OR we OR they OR their OR me OR my OR mine OR you OR your OR yours OR and OR an OR get OR have OR had OR also OR this OR the OR if OR of OR for OR see OR seen OR gotten
Then you don't have to hear from people in Crazy Town any more.

University of Georgia is Having the Annual Fish Medicine Course Again!

As soon as we got the date, we are posting. It's going to be Saturday and Sunday, January 13th and 14th in 2024. 
Dr Stephen Divers is heading this up and has enlisted Vicki Vaughan, Dr. Erik Johnson, Dr Chad Bishop and hopefully additional, experienced talent from across the country! 
We'll provide even more details as they're available, right now we're narrowing down nearly fifty different subjects and disciplines from Koi to Walleye – from parasites to water reuse. Nutrition and an update on KHV and possibly details on CNGV (Sleeping Sickness Virus) 
Dedicated to the Management & Health of Koi and Other Species
Taught by UGA Faculty, Veterinarians and Industry Recognized Experts
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Identifying healthy versus sick fish; preventative therapies; common health issues and treatments;
updates on koi herpesvirus; pond technologies and construction; filtration and water reuse technology;
water quality; advances in nutrition; parasites; advanced veterinary topics and more.
For more details….

A Wealth of Koi and Pondfish Knowledge Books List

Koi Organisation International (KOI) put together a review of more than 2 dozen books, videos etc. Better still, they had THREE reviewers weighing in. This provided valuable insights from 'different' points of view. All good books and resources. Another “nice value” that's added to Koi Organisation International. 
Here's a link to the reference: 
If the link doesn't work, I'm uploading the list as a PDF and let me know. 
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